Tips To Help You Win Your Custody Battle – Part 2
Obtaining a divorce can be an extremely difficult time for a couple, even if the divorce is friendly. With a collaborative divorce, the question of ...
Obtaining a divorce can be an extremely difficult time for a couple, even if the divorce is friendly. With a collaborative divorce, the question of child custody can often be addressed by a simple agreement, without much trouble. If a divorce is challenged, however, the question of who gets custody of the children can become a substantial hurdle. If you should happen to find yourself in this difficult situation, there are certain things that you can do in order to make it more likely that you will be able to obtain the custody of your children when the case is settled.
* Maintain a detailed calendar of anything that involves your children, and the daily details their care. You need to be aware of the activities they are involved in, and know what their daily schedules are. You also need to keep track of the details of any situations where your ex was unable or unwilling to fulfill obligations involving the children – whether it involved picking them up at a certain place and time, or dropping them off on time, or other instances of failures to fulfill commitments.
* It is vital that you be as flexible as you can possibly be when it comes to making adjustments to your situation to be able to accommodate the needs of your children – and your former spouse (although that may be a tough pill to swallow!) – when it comes to your children’s schedules. Whenever you can manage it, be very cooperative if you are asked to make adjustments to the days or weekends when you are scheduled to have the children. By doing this, you make it evident to the Court that you are making the welfare of the children your top priority, and placing your own needs below that.
* Be ready to present to the Court arguments as to why custody shouldn’t be given to your former spouse. Keep records of how much they stay involved in the daily details of your children’s lives, and how willing or unwilling they have been to accommodate changes that become necessary in matters that their schedules. If you can show the Court that the children would appear to be less important to your ex, it can help greatly in making your case.
* If your ex-spouse’s past includes a history of poor mental health, drug or alcohol addictions, or if they have a criminal record, these are highly legitimate issues that must be brought to the attention of the Court to reinforce your argument that you should receive custody. Inappropriate behavior by your ex with a new lover or sexual partner when the children are present is also an important issue that you should present to the Court. Any major issue that might be deleterious to your children’s well-being is a legitimate issue for the Court to review when hearing your custody case.
* Make your best effort to hire a competent attorney who can help you with your custody case. An attorney who truly has your best interests, and those of your children, at heart will be your best ally in your case for obtaining the custody of your children. It is also true, however, that finding that special attorney is often an almost impossible task. As a result, you need to have a “fall-back”, some resource that can provide an additional source of help you just in case your attorney turns out to be lazy, and simply interested in biling hours while doing little actual work. Another situation that can, and often does, come up with an attorney is that they are simply too busy to keep up with all the important psychological and legal approaches, the kinds of evidence, and types of accusations that work (or fail to work) in the Family Courtroom.
The one best way to get access to this kind of information is to obtain a Custody Guide that has been written by true experts in the field – experts who have all the needed experience and know-how to compile the pertinent information, and to present it in a way that makes it easy for a person without legal training to understand it, and use it. There are various sources for this type of guide that will help you find your way through the often difficult legal landscape that is Child Custody. The links in the resource box will provide further information.
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